crmeatball Wrote:
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> Again I feel very sorry for kids and adults that
> go thru bad things that shouldn't happen
> But why do they feel that they have to involve
> innocent people instead of getting a gun and
> blasting away the scum perv uncle or scum abusive
> parents or the scum rotten bully?
> (Do a service and stop them from doing it again
> and again!)
>
> What did these poor commuters or train crews do to
> deserve going through the horror and severe delays
> and lost income?,,,,,,NOTHING!
>
> This is where most people do not understand mental
> health issues, in particular, depression. The fact
> is, they do not feel they are involving others.
> Their mental state is such, they do not fully
> comprehend the consequences of their actions and
> literally cannot comprehend how it could possibly
> effect another person negatively. This is why it
> is absolutely critical to help someone who even
> suggests suicide. I have seen many teens saved
> because of the action of those who care about
> them.
>
> Some of the other comments about the causes of
> these acts are, for the most part, ignorant and
> misguided - in some cases offensive. I have been
> counseling teens for many years now and see the
> stress they feel from meeting life's expections
> cause anxiety and in some cases, depression in
> this age group. Most teens who are trying to be
> successful are encouraged by their parents in such
> are able to handle this pressure. It is generally
> their parents who are setting expectations,
> pushing them and encouraging them. Through such,
> they learn coping skills. I recall once sitting
> under a tree with my father, eating lunch. I was
> about 10 years old. As we ate, I saw a small
> fledgling fall from the tree above us. As a boy,
> I worried as to why this bird fell. I looked up
> and saw its mother, who had just pushed it from
> the nest, squaking at it and encouraging it to
> fly. My father taught me a great lesson at that
> moment, as how parents need to set expectations
> and encourage and, sometimes, push their children
> to work toward success.
>
> However, my experience with these youth suggests
> it is when there are no expectations set by
> parents (or the bar is set low), coping skills are
> not learned and when a stressful or depressive
> episode arrives, they are not able to manage and
> turn to drastic measures. It is much like driving
> a pickup in the snow. To get better traction, put
> some weight in the back. Without it, the truck
> will slip and slide all over the place and
> potentially lose control (like the teenager
> driving a pickup who hit me a few weeks ago).
>
> So, while I can certainly understand the
> frustration caused by a few hours inconvenience,
> it by no means rises to the level of pain and
> anguish felt by these people and their families.
> It is a cold, heartless person who suggests to a
> suicidal person to use a different method so as to
> avoid inconveniencing them. Frankly, such a person
> should be ashamed of themselves and I would
> suggest they work to correct such a character
> flaw. We would do much better as a society were we
> do stop being self-centered and started looking
> outward to help others. Such would transcend all
> political ideologies and would make the world a
> much better place.

Nicely written. Thank you